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106: How To Convert An Anger-Filled Marriage to a Fight-Free Marriage

CE Hours 3

About this course

Anger heightens emotional intensity, putting people at high risk for 'dangerous driving.' Angry interactions in a marriage, like car accidents from speeding on a highway, can cause major harm. This course segment offers a comprehensive toolkit of anger-cessation techniques that prevent anger from undermining a couple's safe and loving marital bond. This course begins with four techniques for helping spouses get what they want without allowing anger to damage their relationship: --Anger is a Stop Sign --Exit/Calm Down/Re-Entry routines --The Depth Dive --The Best Possible Light The course continues by highlighting the rule 'Feelings First:' a core guideline for therapeutic interventions. It then adds further anger management techniques. The bottom line: To remove anger from couples' interactions, therapists need a broad array of anger transformation techniques. A safely anger-free environment enables love and happiness to flourish.

Learning Objectives

  • Explain what angry feelings are good for.
  • Explain to clients how to use the mantra "Anger is a Stop Sign."
  • Explain how couple clients should design a Exit/Calm down/Re-entry routine to prevent anger escalations.
  • State how the "Best Possible Light" series of two questions help clients understand the goal of their anger and find a better alternative for accomplishing it.
  • Demonstrate the 'Feelings First" therapy guideline for where to focus in treatment.
  • Explain how to reduce clients' feelings of resentment with a visualization procedure for transforming resentment to compassion.
  • State four myths that exacerbate angry feelings.

Learning Levels

  • Beginner, i.e., therapists-in-training
  • Intermediate and advanced: individual therapists aiming to add couple therapy to their competencies.
  • Practicing couple therapists aiming to expand their toolkit of couple therapy interventions. .
  • All levels of therapists seeking to expand their methods of treating anger.

Target Audience

This session is for therapists who want to feel more effective in helping their client couples to transform their arguments into constructive dialogue.

Course Instructor(s)

  • Susan Heitler

    Dr. Heitler first opened her private practice as a clinical psychologist almost 50 years ago. From her Denver office, in addition to treating both individual and couple therapy clients, Dr. Heitler has written 6 books, journal articles, plus over 300 psychologytoday.com blogposts that have garnered over 26 million reads.

    In response to her innovative perspectives, Dr. Heitler has been invited to speak on her treatment methods in most states of the US plus on almost every continent including Europe, Australia, China, India, and throughout the Middle East. In Lebanon she was chosen as the keynote speaker for the first-ever gathering of the Arab Psychological Association.

    Dr. Heitler's contributions have focused particularly on the importance of win-win conflict resolution skills for sustaining individual and also couple and family emotional health.

    Dr. Heitler's writings have earned high praise, starting with her first major book, From Conflict to Resolution, a book reviewed in the British Journal of Psychiatry as "a modern refreshing book . . . A highly commendable read for all therapists, particularly those striving to practice in what they hope is an integrative way" and by a practicing therapist in Alabama as "the best clinical psychology book I have ever read."

References

  • Heitler, S. M. (1990). From conflict to resolution: Skills and strategies for individual, couple, and family therapy. New York, NY: Norton.
  • Heitler, S. (1997). The power of two: Secrets to a strong & loving marriage. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
  • Heitler, S., & Hirsch, A. (2003). The power of two workbook. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
  • Heitler, S. (2016). Prescriptions without pills: For relief from depression, anger, anxiety, and more. New York, NY: Morgan James Publishing.
  • Frazier, S. N., & Vela, J. (2014). Dialectical behavior therapy for the treatment of anger and aggressive behavior: A review. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 19(2), 156-163.
  • Bjureberg, J., Ojala, O., Berg, A., Edvardsson, E., Kolbeinsson, Ö., Molander, O., ... & Hesser, H. (2023). Targeting maladaptive anger with brief therapist-supported internet-delivered emotion regulation treatments: A randomized controlled trial. Journal of consulting and clinical psychology, 91(5), 254. DOI: https://doi.org/10.1037/ccp0000769
  • Greenberg, L. S., & Bischkopf, J. (2023). Anger in psychotherapy: To express or not to express? That is the question. In Anger, Aggression, and Interventions for Interpersonal Violence (pp. 165-184). Routledge.
  • Short, D. (2016). The evolving science of anger management. Journal of Psychotherapy Integration, 26(4), 450. DOI: https://doi.org/10.1037/int0000059
  • Lee, A. H., & DiGiuseppe, R. (2018). Anger and aggression treatments: A review of meta-analyses. Current Opinion in Psychology, 19, 65-74. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2017.04.004

CE Process Info

Content

  • Course Videos
    2 parts
    • Class 9: Understanding and Treating Anger: Creating a Fight-free Marriage
    • Class 10: Implementing the ‘Feelings First’ Rule (or, cleaning up after upsets)
  • Required Reading
    3 parts
    • Intro to ECT on Healing Anger
    • Understanding Anger, from The Power of Two Workbook, Chapter 6
    • Anger is a Stop Sign
  • Supplementary Reading
    1 parts
    • Treating Narcissism: A Couple Therapy Case Example
  • American Psychological Association (APA)

    CE Learning Systems, LLC is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. CE Learning Systems maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

  • New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work (NYSEDSW)

    CE Learning Systems SW CPE is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #0060.

  • New York Education Department for Licensed Mental Health Counselors (NYSEDLMHC)

    CE Learning Systems, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors. #MHC-0072.

  • New York State Education Department's State Board for Psychology (NYSEDPSY)

    CE Learning Systems dba CE-Credit.com & AddictionCounselorCE.com is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Psychology as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed psychologists #PSY-0016.

  • New York State Education Department's State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy (NYSEDMFT)

    CE Learning Systems dba CE-Credit.com & AddictionCounselorCE.com is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists #MFT-0045.

106:  How To Convert  An Anger-Filled Marriage to a Fight-Free Marriage
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  • Publication Date
    Jul 12th, 2024

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